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Home of Misfits
Home of Misfits
A place to land. A place to exhale. A place to remember who you are.

🏡 About This Place

(and the human who built it)

Hello. I'm Sabine.


Although around here, many people simply call me Beenie.


Home of Misfits wasn't born because I wanted another website, another Facebook group, or another thing to manage. Trust me... I had plenty already. This place grew out of years of conversations with people who quietly carried the same feeling: I don't think I belong.


Not because they were broken. Far from it. They were thoughtful, curious, compassionate people who asked big questions, noticed little things, and often felt out of step with a world that seemed more interested in certainty than curiosity. They were tired of being told who they should be — spiritually, emotionally, politically, professionally, or otherwise. They didn't need fixing. They needed room.


The funny thing is... so did I.


For much of my life, I became really good at reading the room, adapting to whatever was expected, and becoming whichever version of myself felt safest in the moment. Sometimes that meant being useful. Sometimes agreeable. Sometimes practically invisible. Like a lot of misfits, I learned how to function long before I learned how to feel at home.


For years, I honestly believed something was wrong with me. I thought I was too much in some situations and not enough in others. Too sensitive. Too curious. Too willing to question things that everyone else seemed happy to accept. It took me a long time to realize that I wasn't the problem. I was simply trying to fit into places that were never built for someone like me.


That realization changed more than my perspective. It changed the direction of my life.


Instead of trying harder to fit in, I started wondering what would happen if people had a place where they didn't have to. A place where curiosity wasn't mistaken for rebellion, where kindness didn't require agreement, and where nobody expected you to have life all figured out before you walked through the door.


That's how Home of Misfits came to be.


Not as another self-help program. Not as another online community competing for your attention. Just a place where good humans can gather, have honest conversations, laugh a little, think a little deeper, and remember that belonging isn't something you earn.


Sometimes...


It's something we build together.

🏡 How We Tend This Space

Community can be one of the most healing experiences we ever have.


It can also be one of the most damaging.


I've experienced both.


That's why Home of Misfits isn't built on the idea that "anything goes." It's built on the belief that people thrive when they feel emotionally safe enough to be themselves, ask honest questions, change their minds, and occasionally say, "I have no idea."


That kind of space doesn't happen by accident.


It's created with intention.


Around here, we value curiosity over certainty, respectful disagreement over outrage, and genuine connection over performance. We welcome different perspectives, thoughtful conversations, and people who are willing to learn from one another.


I also believe there's a difference between sharing something because it might genuinely help someone and sharing something simply because you want attention.


I love sharing the books I've written, the podcast episodes we've released, and the work happening through Matters of Perspective® and the Happiness Matters Foundation. Not because I'm collecting gold stars or trying to sell you something every five minutes, but because I genuinely believe they might help someone take their next step.


There's a difference.


Around here, we share to serve — not to spam.


As the founder, I moderate this community and take that responsibility seriously. Not because I want control, but because every community develops a culture — whether someone is tending it or not.


I'd rather tend it.


Think of it like inviting people into your living room. You don't hand everyone a list of rules when they walk through the door, but you do hope they'll treat your home — and everyone in it — with kindness and respect.


That's all I'm trying to do here.


Protect the atmosphere.


Because safe spaces aren't created by accident.


They're created one conversation at a time.


😏 Can We Be Honest for a Second?

I should probably tell you this up front.


I’m not here to save you.
I don't have a magic formula, a five-step blueprint, or the secret to everlasting happiness.


And if someone claims they do... I'd keep one hand on your wallet.


What I do believe in is something a little less flashy and a whole lot more human.


I believe in perspective shifts that help us see ourselves and our lives a little differently. I believe in honest conversations, kindness with healthy boundaries, and laughter that shows up exactly when life starts taking itself a bit too seriously.


Most of all, I believe in the quiet relief that comes from realizing you're not the only one who's ever felt this way.


That's the heart of Home of Misfits


Some people find us through the podcast.

Some wander into one of the Living Rooms.

Some stumble across a blog post at two o'clock in the morning because sleep has apparently filed for divorce.

Some quietly lurk for weeks before saying a single word.


Honestly...

All of that counts.


There isn't a right way to arrive here.

And there certainly isn't a right way to belong.


Just pull up a chair.


We'll meet you where you are.


🪑 Pull Up a Chair

If you've made it this far, there's a decent chance you've recognized a little bit of yourself somewhere on this page.


Maybe you've spent years trying to fit into places that never quite felt like home. Maybe you're tired of conversations that generate more heat than light. Or maybe you're simply looking for a corner of the internet where people can disagree without becoming enemies and laugh without pretending life is perfect.


That's what I'm hoping Home of Misfits becomes.


Not because I have all the answers.

I don't.


Not because this community is perfect.

It won't be.


But because I believe something beautiful happens when good humans gather with open minds, kind hearts, and a willingness to see life from a different perspective.


Whether you join the Open Living Room, request a seat in the Private Living Room, listen to the podcast, watch it on YouTube, quietly read the blog, or simply stop by every now and then...


You're welcome here.


So pull up a chair.

Pour yourself a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever makes your soul happy.

Take a deep breath.

Stay for five minutes or five years.


We'll save you a seat.